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In the interest of recording history, I recently interviewed a friend who deployed to Iraq several years ago. I chose him because he’s honest and thoughtful, and because of his experience. He’s been on two combat deployments to Iraq and six non-combat deployments to various countries around the world. L. Andrew Arlint, who joined the […]

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The Pentagon has lifted the ban on women in combat, but what does that mean? After all, we (and by “we” I don’t include me – I mean “we women”) have been in combat roles for some time. Unofficially.

What it means is that we should be eligible for the draft. (We should have been for some time.)

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Diana Falzone, who calls herself the “Dear Abby” of the website, writes in her article Should military marriages include a ‘deployment sex pact’?, “Most civilian women would not defend their husband’s infidelity. But for the military wife, cheating practically comes with the territory.” It DOES? I’ve known my husband since we were both 17 […]

A friend told me I was being too “journalistic” when answering interview questions about
Pretty Much True… .

“You wrote a fictional story in which the characters and actions were different but the feelings and the fear were the same. Get PERSONAL.”

I never wanted to do that before, because I wanted to emphasize that the overall feeling of the experience, not my experience but the experience, was what was important. But she made me see that one experience, the story, wouldn’t exist without the other, the reality. Continue reading

I found this search term in my website stats today:

“resenting husband for being deployed”

If you copy and paste it into a search field, one of the results to turn up is a blog post written by a woman who resents her traveling husband for spending a lot of time away from home. A military spouse comes to her aid in the comments section:

There are LOTS of things you can do!!! I’m an expert at this! I’ve been an Army wife for 12 years. We’ve NEVER lived near family (we are currently in KS and family is in FL). And, during the past 8 years my husband has been deployed to Iraq more than once (he’s there right now). So, I am a single mom for 6-12 months at a time. I have 3 kids (5y, 2y, and 6mo). Here are my suggestions…

It’s not uncommon to read/see military spouses in this role: practiced when it comes to separation, pros at living the all-but-romantically single life, independent, and happy to help others learn to be independent, too. But Continue reading

In response to the Pentagon’s decision to ease some restrictions on women in combat roles, Rick Santorum said, I think that could be a very compromising situation, where people naturally may do things that may not be in the interest of the mission because of other types of emotions that are involved. Asked by Ann […]

Lifetime’s Desperation could kill its cash cow, “Army Wives” As Lifetime Network’s “Army Wives” is picked up for a third season, hailed for its accurate depictions of the lives of women living on an Army post, it might be unpopular to label the show as one lacking in accuracy and frantically clutching at dramatic straws. […]