Interview with a Getty image

In the interest of recording history, I recently interviewed a friend who deployed to Iraq several years ago. I chose him because he’s honest and thoughtful, and because of his experience. He’s been on two combat deployments to Iraq and six non-combat deployments to various countries around the world. L. Andrew Arlint, who joined the […]

The ban on women in combat has lifted; let’s not take advantage.

The Pentagon has lifted the ban on women in combat, but what does that mean? After all, we (and by “we” I don’t include me – I mean “we women”) have been in combat roles for some time. Unofficially. What it means is that we should be eligible for the draft. (We should have been […]

My husband is in the military; therefore, he probably cheated on me.

Diana Falzone, who calls herself the “Dear Abby” of the website, writes in her article Should military marriages include a ‘deployment sex pact’?, “Most civilian women would not defend their husband’s infidelity. But for the military wife, cheating practically comes with the territory.” It DOES? I’ve known my husband since we were both 17 […]

The nonfiction behind the fiction of Pretty Much True…

A friend told me I was being too “journalistic” when answering interview questions about Pretty Much True… . “You wrote a fictional story in which the characters and actions were different but the feelings and the fear were the same. Get PERSONAL.” I never wanted to do that before, because I wanted to emphasize that […]

Resenting the Deployed

I found this search term in my website stats today: “resenting husband for being deployed” If you copy and paste it into a search field, one of the results to turn up is a blog post written by a woman who resents her traveling husband for spending a lot of time away from home. A […]

Turns out I was completely wrong about “Army Wives”

Lifetime’s Desperation could kill its cash cow, “Army Wives” As Lifetime Network’s “Army Wives” is picked up for a third season, hailed for its accurate depictions of the lives of women living on an Army post, it might be unpopular to label the show as one lacking in accuracy and frantically clutching at dramatic straws. […]